According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, there were 813,862 divorces and annulments in the U.S. in 2014. If you don’t want your marriage to be another statistic, or if you don’t want to join the ranks, then the most important thing you can do right now is go for relationship therapy.
What Is Relationship Therapy?
It’s when you and your partner go to a couples therapist to make sense of what’s going on. The therapist is there as a neutral mediator to help you and your partner communicate with each other. A therapist on hand to mediate helps cooler heads prevail.
Why Seek Out Therapy?
If there’s a major problem—money, infidelity, in-laws, children, sex, among other things—if your relationship feels boring, or if you and your spouse are too busy living separate lives, then all these are good reasons to seek out help. The one reason to get yourself and your partner into therapy is this: to find a way to make things work.
How Does Therapy Help?
Problems in a marriage can stack up and prevent you and your partner from feeling close to each, as well as prevent you from being intimate and connected. Therapy is one way to bridge the gap so that you can break down the distance between you and your spouse. Most couples have a tough time talking about a major issue. Often, it’s difficult to see past emotions to really decide on what’s logical, reasonable, or sensible. That’s why a mediator can help both parties communicate in a calm and reasonable way. They do this by keeping the hostility down and tempering harsh arguments, reframing them in a way that improves the interaction between you and your partner.
If you still want your marriage to work, give yourself and your partner a fighting chance. Get help so that you can sort things out between the two of you. Go to therapy.